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My Vision Of Social Networking: Burning Problems

This is a first post from my series about social networking.

UPDATE: Yihong Ding created post about Genome. Yihong have the gift of making complex things really easy along with the ability to recognize trends. And that makes him a great thinker and evangelist. Don’t miss his post.

Now I wanna talk to you about some burning problems we have when using social networking sites and tools. This is how I feel from user’s point of view.

Let’s start with publicity and privacy.

Problem #1: Publicity (and privacy)

What your parents, friends and colleagues will think about it???

What will your parents, friends or colleagues think about you????

Are you sure you want everybody to know your phone number, your email? Your ex’s? Do you really need your colleagues or employer to know about your problems?

Due to privacy issues you don’t have a necessary level of intimacy of your social network, although every person needs it. You have several privacy levels in your “real” life (I believe, it’s wrong to make a difference between real life and social networking life, more on this later). In descending order by intimacy level (also look at this taxonomy in comments):

  • Spouse/girl- or boyfriend
  • Family member
  • Best friend
  • Friend
  • Buddy
  • Colleague
  • Business partner
  • Creepy high school acquaintance
  • Can’t remember, too embarrassed to admit it
  • etc.

This natural order reflects the richness of human relationships. And the social networking must embrace them.

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Problem #2: Distraction (and Time Wasting)

Social networking is incredibly distracting

Image courtesy of Paul Stamatiou. Do I have to say something more? Okay. Let’s do some maths.

You sleep 8 hours a day. You move 2 hours a day. You work/study 6-8 hours a day. How much time do you have for the rest? 6-8 hours. Not much. Think about it! Just 8 hours a day for doing sports, collecting stamps, cooking, enjoying your family and all these endless things! Just 8 f***g hours a day! Do you really want to waste it trying to get rid of all these messages, pokes and other *es, invitations, requests, etc.???

Sure, do it if social networking is a part of your profession or business. But in your real life most of this activity just doesn’t matter. We must reduce amount of information. Pay attention to really important things.

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Problem #3: Quantity over quality

How do you like this?

Do you really need 5000 \

Or this?

That’s A LOT of people! 15’000 people is a population of a small town. Okay, I agree that a person can be so popular that a lot of people want to add her/him to their “friends”. But this is just one way interaction. Your social networking profile becomes just like RSS feed.

Value for a user depending on size of his social network

Value for a user as function of his social network size

That’s worth nothing. This “quantity over quality” trend is completely wrong in my opinion. We completely lost all richness of in-person interactions and relationships. Liz Strauss says: “The wider I go, the shallower I get”. I completely agree.

This problem is very close to Problem #2: Distraction I mentioned above.

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Problem #4: Ads

Banner ads suck

See more mmm…”cases” here.

And again, do I need to say something more? I’m fed up with unwanted, irrelevant, banner ads.

Even Google ads rocks only on the search page. They often irrelevant on other pages. It seems like ads (even targeted) just don’t work on social networks. They are just annoying. When I see an ad on MY page (I’m the Owner of all my social data and profile!), it just makes me mad.

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  • Waiting for your examples of stupid and ridiculous ads =)

Problem #5: No control under your identity

Oh….this is possibly the largest problem. And the most painful. To understand importance of the problem imagine that Facebook or MySpace (or other social networking site you’re using extensively) suddenly stop working. Or they decided to reposition themselves and start to sell fruits, for instance.

Your profile, your friends, you message history, all your connections and data are LOST! Forever!

Because Facebook owes your data, not you. You cannot save all your data on your computer. Basically, you cannot import or export your data.

So, let me enumerate all things you can’t do:

  • You can’t import/export your data
  • You can’t control who see what about you
  • You can’t watch who know what about you
  • You can’t ask some new web service to read your name, email, contacts ,etc. from your social networking site during sign-up
  • I’m sure, you can continue this list by yourself

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I’m working on the project called Genome. My goal is to create social networking experience that doesn’t suck. I plan to implement all constructive ideas I’m talking about here in my project.


June 26, 2008 Posted by | Uncategorized | , , , , , , , , , , , , | 26 Comments

Life is a theater, vice versa and beyond

Today Yana and I were at the Globus theater (map). The perfomance called “Family stories” (“Simeinye istorii”). It was about very burning issues like poverty in families, children and parents, etc. People shouldn’t live like this. It’s wrong. It’s awful. It’s cruel. It’s unfair. A father who beats his wife and son, a son who sees it and beats a dog then. A patriarchal family, a matriarchal family…The tragedy of old parents when their son left them and went to Switzerland. And above all this crap is….Time. Time. Time’s changing all. Time runs, time’s going fast or slow, but it never stops. It’s like a millstone grinding lifes and destinies.

Time is passing by…Every second, every minute or making you closer to your desires or moving you away from them. And it’s up to you what to do.

There was an scene during the perfomance when a boy singing somthing like “I’ve fucked Nadejda, la-la-la!!! I’ve fucked Nadejda” after he was having sex with girl called Nadejda. And there were two girls at my age behind me who were laughing on this and rolling on the floor. They considered that’s funny. I’m curious what would they say about this a decade later, when they, probably, will have their own children. I dunno. It looks like just a few people these days think about something great, want to grow and change. The majority is just like an talking, walking, fucking, laughing, working social animals. Shame.

The performance was awesome though. Thanks to the actors and staff.

October 26, 2007 Posted by | Uncategorized | , , , , | Leave a comment